These three words are on repeat in my brain right now and in moments I forget, I have a 48" x 60" canvas to "gently" ( as it stares and reflects back at me in it'a gigantic self) remind me!
Life gets crazy and is crazy. To expect any less and try to control outcomes will only leave you feeling frustrated, drained and defeated. You cannot control your circumstances, the only thing you can control is your reaction ( thoughts, actions and behaviours) to what is happening.
One of the only certainties in life is CHANGE. Repeat this again.
We are cyclic beings, constantly evolving, changing and growing and part of your journey is to discover and honour your rhythm. When you resist change and ignore your rhythm you resist life ( and your ability to create, seize the moment and share your gifts) and you will feel stuck.
I felt stuck. I felt like no matter how hard I pushed myself, it was never enough. I had my lists, was clear on action steps, set my goals for the day and week, hustled and pushed even harder to try to accomplish and get to my intended outcome. I can always tell when I am trying to control everything as I turn into a "drill sargent". I clench my jaw, feel heightened, drink too much coffee ( and usually don't eat enough), hands get ice cold, my digestion slows right down, I wake up at 4 am and can't fall back asleep. I start shouting orders and think everybody should be functioning and moving on my time, and doing what I say. I get very easily annoyed and frustrated, I am not at all patient and I am not very kind when anyone isn't listening or doing as I say.
These are my red flags and I share them because if I didn't know them, I wouldn't be able to catch myself and course correct.
What does your body do when you are trying to control everything?
What behaviours do you do when you are in control mode?
Pay attention.
Then get back up, without shame!! Be proud ( that you caught yourself) and know that you are learning and growing into who you need to be. If you don't catch yourself you cannot change the pattern. The more you catch yourself, the less "sticky" it will feel and the quicker your course correct will be. It's almost like you start becoming the observer.
Dance with life. No matter what gets thrown your way, choose to look for the lessons, the assignment and the opportunity for growth. Choose to be happy anyways!
Look for blessings every single day.
Smile more. Find your rhythm, life is about ebbs and flows- it is NOT a constant. More often then not, my rhythm requires more self care and Lisa time ( to avoid or course-correct my drill sargent mode) - this helps me be 100% present, show up as MY best and genuinely be happy to serve the people around me.
The universe will give exactly what you need, and will continue to do so until you grow into who you need to become.
xo
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