"Worrying is like praying for something bad to happen."
When my mentor told me this I felt like it hit me right in the forehead, clearly it resonated with me.
For real though, who taught us that in order to care we must worry? .. and that somehow that it will help??
When someone is having a hard time or challenged in life we worry for them like it will make things better.
What really happens-
Your physiology changes to a Stress physiology when you worry. Your body goes into survival mode putting more stress on your thyroid, adrenal and nerve system. Your heart rate and blood pressure go up, your digestion slows down, your body pools blood flow to your organs (cold hand and feet?) and your muscles are tense ( shoulders in your ears?).
We also tend to see the person as weak instead of strong. We begin thinking worse case scenario and our mind takes over. We fuel their victimhood.
We become emotionally driven rather then remaining factual to the situation or person at hand. Our reptile brain takes over.
Concern on the other hand has a much different tone. It's definition is " a matter of interest or importance to someone." Well, that sounds a lot more like it!
Concern allows us to care and see them strong. To acknowledge their struggle and trust that they will grow through it. To offer help and support and encourage them to receive without pitying them. To cheer them on and let them know that they are stronger than they think instead of assuming they will fail or crash because they are too weak.
They will be receptive to the higher frequency thoughts, prayers and vibes...
.. and you get to safeguard your well-being.
Why not try on "concern" versus "worry" and shift your perspective?
xo
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