When you say YES when you mean NO it leads to resentment which is the biggest energy drain ever.
It may start small but as you keep saying YES all the time, it accumulates.. compounds if you will, the resentment grows, you feel depleted and even taken advantage of.
Then it begins to affect your health, your well-being and your appreciation of life.
I know, I've been there, I've lived there most of my life and have committed to this in 2019, and let me share that it is a pattern that will test you consistently. As women we are raised to please, keep the peace and not "ruffle anyone's feathers". To keep our opinion to ourselves and to compare ourselves to others and our worth according to others opinions of us. From a young age, I aimed to please others.
It was only a few years ago that I realized that I had no boundaries. I consistently gave my time away to everyone, all the time, even when I had nothing to give-I would still say Yes. I felt frustrated and I felt dull, there was nothing igniting ME in my life.
I knew I needed to establish boundaries. Little did I know it would change my life.
Setting boundaries is about loving yourself enough to reclaim your worth as you start prioritizing YOU and what YOU want. It doesn't mean throwing all that you do to the wayside- not at all actually, but instead to carve out time for the things you want too. Basically, boundaries help to start including yourself in all the people you take care of and prioritize in your life. They help you schedule things that bring you JOY, excite and energize you, that are aligned with your core values and what's important to you, as well as time to rest and take care of yourself... daily. Yes, I almost fell to the floor when someone challenged me to do the same- " I don't have the time", "I'm too busy", "Clearly you are not a mom"were all excuses that immediately popped up- I could barely fit it in once a month at the time!! I also realized that I had so much resistance - so I decided to commit and do it :).
Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
Are you saying Yes to everything that comes up or do you get clear on an intention and only choose things that align with it.
How do you decided if you say Yes to something or not?
"Walls keep everybody out.
Boundaries teach people where the door is."
-Mark Grove
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